Getting the man’s perspective no holds barred is priceless!
A “relationship” is any union that connects more than one person. From the moment you meet & connect with someone, you now have a “relationship”. The titles of some relationships need to be communicated, while others don’t. In order for there to be a clear understanding of a romantic relationship, both parties should at some point communicates and define exactly what it is. Whenever someone earns a new position in your life, they should be given a title. When parents give birth to a boy, they call him “son”. When a couple gets married, they call one another husband and wife. These titles help identify their roles in each other’s lives.
Anytime you allow a man to earn a significant place in your life, he should be given a title that publicly identifies his position. The key piece to this puzzle is earning the position/title, as opposed to being given a position/title. When a man earns his position, that’s indication that he’s put in the necessary work that you required him to do, and he’s shown you his worth. A man who is given a position/title hasn’t necessarily done anything to earn his keep, he’s just around. There are millions of men in the world, and you only need one. Never focus on a man who isn’t focused on you! Give your time, energy, and effort to a man who has and still is proving that he wants to be a part of your life.
Men are natural born hunters; they like to be the aggressors and initiate activities that interest them. Being handed things takes away the fun in the hunt, and it makes him feel less than a man because he hasn’t earned his keep. With this in mind, know that men do not want to be approached by a woman, asked out on a date, offered a relationship title, or proposed to for marriage. These are things that men want to do on their own, when they’re ready, and with the person of their choice. The best way for you to get a man to approach you, date you, commit to you, and marry you is by showing him your worth. Showing your worth simply means that you are being the best woman you can be in hopes that he will take notice; all the while, you are being still, and taking little to no action.